‘If you have no critics, you’ll likely have no success’ Malcolm X
Critics, whether they are silent whispers behind your back or social media comments that are aimed at bringing you down – could they possibly be signs that you’re on the right track? Success means you might have to tread on a few toes to get to where you want to go, but how do you defend yourself and not take it all to heart? A play on Theodore Roosevelts original quote:
http://mentalfloss.com/article/63389/roosevelts-man-arena Author Brene Brown writes:
“If you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.”
A good reminder that not all of your critics carry the same weight.
Being successful means being in the ‘arena’ and this may be in life or leadership. We can glide through life without ever having to even think about being in these places that are vulnerable, that make you open, taking risks to crave more, taking risks to demand better. We can effectively live under a rock if we wish. But for those who desire to answer the call of their inner voice and look further into what is really possible in this life – there are some things that are going to test your resilience along the way.
Here are 2 rules to keep in mind as you face these challenges on your own journey.
Rule 1: Know the weight of your critiques
People we take criticism from should also be the ones who are stepping outside of their own comfort zones on the same level as you. Listen to these voices in an objective way and perhaps you may find ways to improve or refine what you are doing or saying.
Rule 2: Rise above what is below you
Ignore quick hard hitting comments that are aimed at bringing you down a notch from people who are not in the ‘arena’. There are all too many of these trolls online that are quick to comment and judge. Precious energy is wasted trying to defend yourself on people who are just not worth it.
All this being said, it’s not always easy to ignore that remark about your personal appearance, the attack on your sexuality, intelligence, family or achievements. Reminding yourself of who you are, what you value and what brings your passion and meaning, are ways to bring it all into perspective. Stay connected with those you trust, value, have your back and are lovingly objective. Also, seek out a mentor or coach who has the skills and experience to guide you on the path to your personal greatness. They are your true critics and champions on the road to your true success.